Monday, January 29, 2007

Daycare Woes, Part II

Last week, after we received the call from the daycare, Rob and I talked and decided that we should accept the spot. Cady and I went for a visit last week. We stayed for an hour and observed. The babies got a lot of attention, but there just weren't enough people to acommodate each and every baby's need to be held. I think they did a great job trying, but it is what it is...daycare! Maybe it was my imagination, but it also seemed like every baby there, except for one, was coughing! I spent the whole visit trying to talk myself into the daycare being the right thing to do.

The benefit of the center is that Cady can be around other babies which she loves, Rob and I can work at least twice a week without the crazy scheduling that we have going on. The drawbacks. Obviously the big one being that no matter how you look at it, it's daycare. A bunch of babies sharing their time with other babies. Maybe when they are older it's okay to share their time, but I really believe that babies should have access to their favorite people as often as they need it. The other drawback is that the center is really expensive. We are already paying out the ying-yang for our nanny, and in addition to it being expensive, it is REQUIRED that you attend regular mandatory meetings, volunteer 10 hours every month AND serve on a committee. This sounds a lot like the same demands my JOB has! We find it hard to deep clean our own home without taking away more time to deep clean a daycare center. And call us crazy, but when we are not working, we really would rather spend our time with Cady.

So, I posted an ad on the mommy website and pretty much right when we had resigned to having Cady go to the center, an email came across. I was literally signing the center paperwork when I checked the email. The email was from a mom that has a 2 1/2 year old and an 11 month old. She offered to watch Cady for us one day a week. I took a chance and gave her a call. She sounded really nice. She is a former Special Education teacher and had also taught fifth grade for a few years. I casually asked her which school she taught at and she mentioned a school in Denver Public Schools. After she and I talked, I called the Social worker at the school that she had mentioned and asked her if she remembered a teacher named X. She said, "Oh yeah, we keep trying to get her to come back here. She is a solid woman. Not only a great teacher but an outstanding mom." Okay, sold! I emailed the center tonight with my regrets. Rob is going to work from home on Tuesdays and we also have two friends that have offered to come in on Tuesdays whenever we need them. The bonus is that they both have babies that Cady loves!! I think we did it. I think we can make it till May! Cross your fingers for us.

Saturday, January 27, 2007

Not a traditionalist...

I think she takes after her mom a little bit. She gets things done, but she does them her own way. Cady is mobile at last. Just not in the traditional sense. Go Cady! (click on picture).

Monday, January 22, 2007

Trials and Tribulations

Rob and I have done everything we can to keep Cady home for her first year. It's been challenging. Alicja comes over 15 hours a week. Rob works from home a couple of days and goes in late the other days. I get off early a couple of days and work one really long day to compensate. It's challenging but worth it.

The problem!

Last week Rob got a memo from The Boss. Everyone got this memo. Essentially it says, someone screwed up and nobody is working from home anymore starting THIS MONDAY!!!!!!!!!! What are we supposed to do? It's not as if you can just walk up to a daycare center and say "I would like my baby to start in 3 days." These places have waiting lists that take months before you find yourself on top. Our nanny is maxed out...and even if she wasn't we wouldn't be able to afford a full-time nanny. I'm on contract and can't just quit mid-year. Hmmmmmmm.

Okay, flashback six months. It's July and I'm getting ready to go back to work. I go to our neighborhood Co-Op daycare with Cady, determined to set-up daycare for her. I paid my non-refundable 75.00 waiting list fee. Cady and I hung-out for at least an hour. Everyone was super nice, parents are not only invited but expected to spend a certain amount of time at the facility monthly. The problem is that when I left the daycare center that day, my eyes filled up with tears and I knew that I was out 75.00 because I couldn't put Cady in daycare. I never tried to get my money back.

That was six months ago. The very next day after Rob got the memo, we get a call from this daycare saying that we have finally made it to the top of the list. We have our pick of days. WHAT????

Now Rob and I are deciding what to do. His boss granted him a small extension since it wasn't Rob who screwed up. Cady absolutely loves her nanny so that is the only thing we know we have to keep doing. Can we afford a nanny three days and daycare two days? Can Rob start working nights? We keep talking ourself in circles, ending up where we started the conversation which not having any clue. I'm a good decision maker. I tend to make quick decisions but that doesn't happen anymore. Being a parent and making parent decisions is a long drawn out process. What is best? How do you really know? At least we have options now, but it doesn't seem to make it any easier. If I had to do it all over again, I would have taken this year off and we would have made things work financially. I don't have it to do all over again so we are doing our best with the choices that we made.

Saturday, January 20, 2007


I must be a mom. No matter how tense or busy I am at work, Rob's frequent emails that describe a recent Cady poop usually make me laugh. He doesn't intentionally try to make me laugh...he is quite serious. They usually start out with "OMG, you should have seen the diaper I just changed, or the clothing that she just saturated, or the mess she made of her crib" and then he lodges into a description. If my intern is working those days, I usually share and she enjoys them as well.

Well, I received one of those emails Wednesday and it has gone downhill ever since. Rob described the "most poop I've ever seen" and how it was all over her from top to bottom, her clothes and her crib. Well, that was the beginning of what seems to be a rota virus. Cady has had diarrhea for four days now...SEVERE diarrhea the past two days. We took her to urgent care this morning where we were reassured that we are doing everything right...nursing frequently, encouraging her to drink pedialyte, watching for dehydration, etc... Today was just a long day! After waiting most of the morning at Urgent Care, we spent the better part of the afternoon preparing a Thai dish for one of our dinner parties that we were not able to go to tonight because of Cady's diarrhea. Right now Rob is picking up Thai take-out as a consolation dinner for us.

So, now onto why Rob is one of the best husbands in the world. We went to King Soopers the other night. Cady was running out of diapers and she has been in size 3 for quite a while now. I proposed the idea of graduating to size 4. Rob did not think it was a good idea and that size 3 would be better fitting for her...literally. We seriously debated this for quite a while in aisle 4 and I eventually argued my way into a large pack of size four diapers. Well, Cady really isn't ready for size fours so we have had two days of explosive diarrhea in ill fitting diapers and NOT ONCE has Rob said I told you so. He's a better person than I am!

Saturday, January 13, 2007

This weekend

First of all, it is seriously seriously cold here. I mean like really cold! The cold didn't cancel Cady's first music together class last night. It was a lot of fun. Cady was mesmerized. We all sat in a big circle and the instructor plays guitar and we all sing songs and play hand games. There was a jam session where you can choose your instrument and go crazy. Cady played the bells and I don't know what the instrument is that I played. For another song, we had to dance around with scarves. Oh yeah, Rob got out of THAT! He opted to go to a dad's night out event. I would have loved to see him dancing with scarves...and I time! The only thing that I hate worse than dancing in front of a bunch of people I don't know, is dancing with scarves in front of a bunch of people I don't know. For Cady's sake I used the grin-and-bear it approach.

Today we are going to a *Free* Will and Estate Planning Seminar. It's necessary, but there's nothing fun thinking about how you would plan for your own death. Afterwards, Cady and I have a play group. Cady scares other babies at playgroups. She gets really excited to see everyone and literally screams in their faces while flailing her arms. Other babies don't seem to understand this passion and it puts them in tears. The other thing she does at these groups is toy horde. She somehow manages to obtain about 80% of the toys although she may be only 1/15th of the group. We'll see how this group goes.

Wednesday, January 10, 2007

Taking chances

Well, we are still not crawling over here. We CAN crawl. I've seen evidence. She actually did a little crawl tonight and then did the usual...she put her head down on the floor, had a tantrum, and refused to do anything. I picked her up and put her in my lap. She pulled herself up to a standing position using her laugh and learn learning house for support. Then she would take both hands off of the house for just a moment and stand on her own. The standing never lasted for more than a couple of seconds but I watched the awareness in her eyes as she realized that she was in fact standing all by herself. Shouldn't be long now.

Monday, January 8, 2007


Yesterday Cady had her friend Mack over to fingerpaint. Fortunately Mack's mom made the fingerpaint edible since the mouth was the first place it went. Mack delved right into the paint and had it head to toe within mere seconds. Cady on the other hand, was a bit more tentative. She touched the paint (see second photo) and examined the texture before deciding what her next move would be. Strangely enough, they approach their snacks the same way. Cady eats her toast neatly from top to bottom. Mack goos his up and it's everywhere. One might say that the gender differences are displaying themselves already.
After the paint session, we had no choice but to throw them in the bath together when we realized that the blue food coloring was turning them blue. Even after Mack's mom wiped his face off, he looked badly bruised...not a good thing if she planned on stopping off on the way home! We figure, if anything, it'll be a great photo to share with them when they are in their awkward adolescent phase! HEHE!

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Cady checking out the texture of the herself time to dream up her masterpiece!
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Working on the Masterpiece
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Cleaning up is almost as much fun as getting dirty!
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Just a cute Cady pic
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Friday, January 5, 2007

Snow Snow Snow!

Today marks the third big snow we have had in the past three weeks. The other stuff hasn't even melted off yet. It makes for icy, snowpacked, slippery driving. I tried taking Cady for a stroller ride the other day and we still can't get anywhere. They really ought to think about making snowtires for strollers...there are desparate moms everywhere that would buy them. Cady was supposed to start her first music class tonight (Drumming, nonetheless) but it was cancelled because of...the snow! For those of you in the Midwest and Eastern states who are unseasonably dry this year, we will gladly send this snow back your way. After all, it is more likely that your cities have more plows to handle it.
Here are some pictures, and a video, of the first snow...
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And Cady's homemade sled!!

Wednesday, January 3, 2007

The return of Tough-Girl!!

For your viewing pleasure, Cady starring in Tough-Girl II: When Infants Become Enraged

Mommy Brain??

Yesterday I spent the morning paying bills. I was quite proud of myself that I remembered to date the checks according to the new year. On each check I had neatly written January 2, 2008 and then they were promplty mailed off.
Later in the evening, I was enjoying some gummy cola bottles and I noticed on the bag the message "Best enjoyed by Jan 2007". How could I have JUST bought a bag of cola bottles that had expired a year ago! I started to vent about this to Rob, who of course looked at me like I was a crazy woman. He said something to the effect, good thing you are eating them now before they expire." It was then my turn to inform Rob that they had expired a year ago!! He said, "No, Paula, It is 2007" at which I actually argued that "No, we are in a new year now and it's 2008." In his defense, Rob not only showed me the calendar that was on his wall (thanks Sophie and Chris) but he took control of my mouse and clicked onto the lower right part of my screen where the date January 2, 2007 appeared.
These situations have happened far too frequently since Cady first inhabitated my body. I had really hoped that the birthing process would bring my brain back to me. So far, obviously not the case!

Tuesday, January 2, 2007

What's new....

This week it seems to be the tough-girl look. It's quite intimdating, really! Cady crinkles up her nose, scowls, and pants quickly through her nose. So far she seems to use it pretty indisciminately. Yesterday, she launched a series of tough-girl faces, directed toward me (Paula) at the store when we were shopping. The first couple of times she shot me "the look" I think she actually succeeded in getting me to push the cart a little faster! There's nothing quite like a huffing/scowling 8 month old to get you going!

The first entry

We have decided to start keeping a blog so that our family can keep up with the day-to-day life of their granddaughter, niece, cousin, etc...So check back regularly to find out what the little one, as well as her mom and dad, are up to.